Embracing Compassion and Curiosity: Ignatius of Loyola's Approach to Understanding

Embracing Compassion and Curiosity: Ignatius of Loyola's Approach to Understanding

Being human is hard, and we're all trying our best. We've all been in situations where we couldn't express ourselves fully. It's a relief when our listener assumes the best interpretation. Ignatius of Loyola, when advising Spiritual Directors, emphasizes starting with this assumption. But what if the other person's statements are just wrong? Ignatius addresses this too. He suggests that when you can't "save the proposition of the other," engage with curiosity by asking questions. How do they understand what they are saying? Often, what we assume to be completely wrong reveals a lack of imagination on our part about how the other person views the situation. A simple check-in can resolve much unnecessary conflict and division.

Addressing Misunderstandings with Love

If, after engaging with true curiosity, you find that the other person is still wrong, Ignatius advises correcting them with love. Here's the direct quote from St. Ignatius:

"It should be presupposed that every good Christian should be more ready to save the proposition of their neighbor than to condemn it; and if they cannot save it, they should inquire how they understand it. If they understand it poorly, correct them with love; and if this is not enough, seek all appropriate means so that, understanding it well, they may be saved."

— St. Ignatius of Loyola, The Spiritual Exercises [22]

The Power of Compassion and Curiosity

Imagine how much better off our world would be if we all treated each other with this mindset. By starting with the best interpretation, engaging with curiosity, and correcting with love, we can foster a more understanding and compassionate world.